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LOUISA JEWELL’S BLOG
April 16, 2018

In this week’s Juice I talk about a resilience tool that is so powerful and yet so difficult to put into practice.

That is acceptance.

When things go wrong, or something happens to us that is unexpected and unwanted, we tend to get angry and resist it. I’m suggesting to embrace it. Easier said than done.

Listen to this week’s Juice for tips on how to accept both the good and the bad parts of life.

The Healing Power of Acceptance

When One Door Closes

When we feel a loss of control, when the ending does not match the story we told ourselves, we want to fix it, to put it back together. When things happen in our lives that are unexpected, when they devastate us, when things beyond our control change the trajectory of our lives our first instinct is to fight. We are flooded with emotions of hurt and anger. The door that has closed we push back it, we push against it, pounding, willing it to open again. Pleading for what we had to not be lost.

Another Door Opens

Because we are stuck focused on what has happened we can not see what lies ahead. We can’t see what opportunities lie in the wake of tragedy. We can’t see the goodness that surrounds us. When we begin to look beyond the initial hurt and pain of loss, and give ourselves permission to accept that we can not control the result but we can control how we use the outcome, our landscape changes. Acceptance brings clarity to all we have been given. Clarity to the beautiful life we have, and can have. There is light in darkness. Acceptance opens the door.

Balm to a Wounded Soul

Acceptance is not a cure. It does not mean you will no longer be sad. The hurts may remain, the disappointments still felt; but you can feel along side of it, faith, grace, hope of something better.

Acceptance does not take away our pain but it opens the door to let joy back in.

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April 9, 2018

For this week’s Weekly Juice I wanted to share my radio show interview on What She Said Radio with Christine Bentley and Kate Wheeler. We talked about 4 sources of a more action-oriented confidence that will boost your courage to act and break down those fear barriers! Listen in!

Why Are We Plagued with Self Doubt?

When things change we consistently question, “are we good enough?” Social media is everywhere and because self doubt is socially constructed we are always in a state of constant comparison.

Impostor Syndrome – Stop It!

Impostor syndrome perpetuates self doubt. And the way to combat it is to strengthen our selves. When we do better we feel better. Competence breeds confidence. Believe in the value of your contribution.

Four Step Formula – Action your Behaviours

1. Start Doing it – Put what worries you into practice, take baby steps and celebrate along the way.
2. Find Inspiring Role Models – People you admire and believe you could follow in their path. Inspiring humans that model the behaviour you want for yourself.
3. Mentally Rehearse – Meditate. Imagine you are already doing it. We can trick our brains to become familiar with doing things even if we have never done it before
4. Find a Mentor Who Believes in you. Who will encourage you and cheer you on.

Stay focused. Be gentle with yourself. Less Self Criticism, More Self Compassion

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March 26, 2018

Your Weekly Juice Episode 36

Women’s Empowerment

Do you ruminate regularly?

Ruminating is such an destructive habit and can leave people feeling unmotivated and depressed. When I was younger, I found myself in a situation where I was ruminating about something that was out of my control. It wasn’t until my mother said two very simple words to me that I was able to put things into perspective. Until this day, I still think of the advice my mom gave me and continue to share it with others, and I’m excited to now share it with you!

Here is the one thing you need to tell yourself to stop ruminating.

Why You Should Tell Yourself “So What?”

The Worst That Can Happen Might Not be That Bad

Take a step back from the situation that is making you ruminate. Ask yourself if the worst case scenario is really that bad. Generally, when we feel anxious we don’t think straight so it’s easy to allow our emotion to overcome our thoughts.

There is Usually a Solution

In most cases, there is always a solution. For example, if this company doesn’t want to hire you, someone else will. It’s easy to jump right to being negative but if you want to learn to control your ruminations, you need to take control of your thoughts.

You Can’t Please Everyone

You can’t please everyone and not everyone will believe in what you’re doing – it’s just life. When I started to write my book, Wire Your Brain for Confidence; The Science of Conquering Self-Doubt I found myself thinking a lot about what people were going to think of the final product. And then I thought, “So what?” You can spend your life worrying about what others think or you can start living your life.

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March 19, 2018

Your Weekly Juice Episode 35

Women’s Empowerment

Do you struggle with perfectionism?

We all want to strive to be excellent in everything we do but when we beat ourselves up for not being perfect, this can rob us of our happiness and well-being. In this Weekly Juice, I share one of my most popular techniques from my book Wire Your Brain for Confidence.

Women and men from across North America have been emailing me about this technique and how it is transforming their lives. Listen in and let go of perfectionism once and for all!

How to Find Peace at 6

Make a List

To begin with the Peace at 6 exercise, make a list of all the domains that are important to you. For example, being a great mom, daughter, employee, boss, volunteer etc. Write down all of the areas that you want to excel in.

Choose 3 That Are Most Important

From this list, choose the 3 that are most important to you. These are the areas you really want to excel in and the areas you have a strong desire to focus your energy. These are areas where you want to be a 10. It doesn’t mean you have to be a 10, it’s just what you are striving for. Remember, depending on where you are in life, the 3 domains that are most important to you will change and this is okay. Your goals will change as you continue to grow and evolve.

Be Okay With Not Being Perfect

Once you have chosen the 3 domains that are most important to you, allow yourself to be okay with being a 6 in the others. No one is capable of being a 10 in every aspect of their lives, not even you. Don’t allow yourself to strive for perfectionism when it doesn’t exist. You will feel a weight lifted off your shoulders when you allow yourself to let go.

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March 12, 2018

Your Weekly Juice Episode 34

Women’s Empowerment

In this Weekly Juice, I interview positive psychology coach and author of Getting Grit, Caroline Adams Miller about how to be a gritty woman.

Grit is passion and perseverance for long-term goals that are meaningful. Caroline discusses why it is important for women to be grittier, tips for getting gritty and how we can all support other women through her initiative, #share222.

If you are in Massachusetts, join Caroline from April 20-22 at the Kripalu Centre for Yoga and Health for her program, Develop a Game Plan for Life.

Enjoy getting gritty in this episode!

How to be a Gritty Woman

Be Passionate and Persistent

Have a goal and work hard towards achieving it. Know that there will be obstacles in your way, but you are capable of overcoming them. The final outcome will be worth it!

Go Out of Your Comfort Zone

Achieving your goals won’t be easy, and it’s not meant to be. Step out of your comfort zone and be open to the opportunity to grow and learn from the obstacles that present themselves. You will be a better and smarter individual as a result.

Support Other Women

Caroline started the #Share222 initiative as a way for women to share the successes of other women in their lives/networks. She encourages women to use #Share222
while congratulating and celebrating women for their accomplishments no matter how big or small. Caroline says, “What if we use an “implementation intention” – also called “if-then” actions in the popular media – that research shows will triple our chances of accomplishing a hard goal. By helping others, you, in turn, will be helping yourself.

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You can't help but feel better about yourself after spending some time with Louisa. Her energy and enthusiasm is infectious, mix that with her engaging teaching style and you have the ideal learning environment for anyone interested in positive psychology. I have been blessed to learn from Louisa in a classroom and conference setting and I can honestly say that she has changed my life.

Glendale Reyes


Louisa was my instructor for The Flourishing Center's CAPP (Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology) course held in Toronto Canada. She was excellent in her delivery and included many different approaches to teaching and learning which helped me retain the information better than any other course I have taken. Her enthusiasm and commitment to her work is an inspiration and she is brilliant at w... (Read More)

Barbara Santen
Registered Midwife & Relationship Coach


Plain and simply speaking, you were a hit! Your morning keynote address set a meaningful, happy, and upbeat tone for the rest of the conference. Our staff responded to your presentation style and message because it is what we needed to hear and feel at this time. We are a great College, with great staff, and May is the end of a full and active year of classes and programs, successes and challenges... (Read More)

Brian Benn, M. Ed.
Associate Director, Organizational Development


Let me just say WOW, WOW, WOW!!! You are a pleasure and a joy! Everybody loved your presentation, your warmth, kindness, approachability, and collaborative approach! Thank you so much for a phenomenal conference. The afternoon portion was also fantastic and more intimate which was really lovely, and it got all of us to breathe and connect more with one another. I cannot wait until our next opportu... (Read More)

Annalise Iten
Director Job Search Program


Louisa has the unique ability to engage a diverse audience with her expertise, humour and engaging style. As our key note speaker she enlightened the audience on the science of happiness and how happiness effects our well-being. The feedback was overwhelmingly positive; guests were inspired and delighted to listen to such a knowledgeable professional about a topic that everyone craves to know more... (Read More)

Roz Baker
Project Director, Signature Events


Louisa's course: Building Personal Resilience for Clinicians and Frontline Workers has been very well received since we introduced it two years ago. Her fun and engaging style makes this one of our highest rated courses, and the information is such a critical addition to the participants self-care toolkit. While the material is completely grounded in science, the application of it is practical, ... (Read More)

Linda Hills
Executive Director


University of Toronto Scarborough

Louisa delivered a fantastic workshop on the topic of personal resilience and learning to embrace failure. Her session was refreshing, entertaining and very pertinent to our work with students. The strategies she provided are ones we can apply right away. Our time with her simply flew by! I highly recommend Louisa as she is both an expert on and shining example of the power of positive psychology.

Jen Tigno
Manager, Advising & Learning Skills Services, Academic Advising & Career Centre


Thank you again for another great webinar. You and Shannon are both so engaging. It is rare in a webinar to actually feel that we are all in the room together. Somehow you both pull it off with your deep knowledge, warmth and energy. Your sessions offer a lot of value. The content is clear and compelling, and the exercises are highly relevant and immediately useful. I’m really enjoying ta... (Read More)

Carolyn Meacher
Innovation Leadership Coach


Thank you so much for your presentation today—there was so much that was of great value –lots to think about. I worked with a client immediately following the webinar and used the “miracle question”—so much came out of that and it was perfect timing. Louisa, I found your presentation style is so engaging, provocative and yet relaxed and rich with information. Thanks again.

Marilyn Kisluk
Coach


Comments from two participants (faculty and staff): 1) I felt that the PD with Louisa Jewell really had an effect on me in a very positive way. I could not stop talking and thinking about her discussions for a week or more after. It had such an impact on me that I spoke to my friends about that PD. I feel that our school needs these kinds of reminders in order to put ourselves on track and keep ... (Read More)

Helen Gin
Middle School Principal


Thank you again so much for the excellent session! It is so valuable and pertinent and, as I mentioned at the beginning, theoretically grounded and also practical - a rare and wonderful combination.

Valerie Ward
Co-Developer and Owner


Your presentation to our parents was such a gift. Thank you. I have already had emails from parents who attended to say how grateful they are for what you shared with them. Your work is so important, and the way you distribute it with such grace and humour makes it accessible to so many.

Laurie Fraser
Character Integrator


Scotiabank

The workshop is very dynamic and time flies. It definitely gave me more consciousness of what I think, I feel, do and how I can do a much better job. The content is powerful and so are the exercises and resources provided. I do think that this is the first step to a happier, fulfilling life. I would love to take more workshops about this subject. Thank you Louisa so much for this opportunity. I ha... (Read More)

Brenda Bojorquez
Senior Manager


The flourishing 101 course was an eye opener. When you look for the positive around you, guess what you actually find more of the positive. It?s the power of intention. I discovered how I could use my top strengths to create more success in my personal life and career. Sometimes what we are naturally good at we take for granted. This course will change how you interact with others and bring more p... (Read More)

Sarah Clark
CPC Health Coach


I had long struggled with my lack of motivation and my fear of the world. I didn't have enough confidence in myself to start conversations with strangers or to try new things. I was unhappy with the small and empty way I was living my life and I wanted to make a change, but I didn't know how or if I could. I found the answers I was looking for in this course. It opened my eyes to the traps I was f... (Read More)

Collette Johns


I loved Louisa Jewell's Flourishing 101 workshop series. I learned so much about happiness, positivity and how to increase both. I have so many new tools to use and am able to refer to them whenever I need to. It's been extremely useful and I recommend it to anyone!

Kristy S. Simpson


It would have taken me months of independent study to learn what I have learnt in just six short weeks. The classes were lively, engaging and down to earth. The practical examples and stories made the research come alive. I especially loved the home happiness boosters turned my A-ha Moments into easy action steps with big impact. Flourishing 101 made a positive impact on my life and has given me ... (Read More)

Shirin Khamisa
Career counsellor & Certified ICF Coach


Thank you very much for taking the time to present to us here at Sterling Hall on Tuesday. I have had numerous teachers, parents, and administrators say what an incredible session it was. All of our brains are brimming with programming and activities we can implement both at home and at school to help our students and children realize their character strengths and use them to help build their resi... (Read More)

Erica Sprules
Manager


Thank you for a great course! It was a wonderful class - full of useful and thought-provoking information. And, I liked the balance of classroom learning (which I love) and some exercises to apply what we talk about. You are also able to handle all sorts of questions well. I was so curious - I hope I did not bombard you with too many questions as I was loving what we discussed and wanted to learn ... (Read More)

Steffi Black
Life/Career Coach & Kindness Advocate for Schools


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