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LOUISA JEWELL’S BLOG
June 19, 2018

When it comes to dating, especially after a divorce where does our confidence go? And how do we get it back? I am so excited to share my conversation with Mark Groves with you all.

If I Was Enough, What Would I Do?

Most of us, specifically at our most vulnerable, believe we are worthy when someone chooses us. This shifts the power in the dating process. Instead of the world responding to us, we find ourselves responding to the world. We are taking our cues for how to react from how we are being treated in the process. Instead, take a position of power. Be who you are, and get clear on that. Understand why you do what you do. The more you know exactly what and WHO you are bringing to the table the more empowered you are.

Dating As Sorting

Treat dating as an opportunity to get very clear on what you want and what you do not want.

Date enough people that you can identify what makes a good fit for you. When you start to understand what works for you, and what your standards are, you are more able to see the abundance of opportunity in dating. It opens up your eyes to what is available for you. Remember, you are in a selection process, you are not sitting and waiting to be selected. Use your voice and be brave enough to say openly what you want, rather than remaining silent afraid it won’t fit with another and entering into an “intention mismatch”.

Change Comes From Within

Belief is symbiotic with choice. We must make the choice to believe what we are telling ourselves. People with amazing self worth tell themselves they are worthy. People with great boundaries recommit those boundaries internally. What you believe about yourself will be as strong as your weakest choice. Relationships are a magnifying glass to all of that.

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June 12, 2018

How much self doubt is healthy for you?

You always want to have a little bit of self doubt. When something is new, or unnerving, or unfamiliar, self doubt can help you perform better. Recently while preparing to speak to a room full of medical professionals I found myself wondering if the message I was portraying was going to be right. I was doubting how my words would land with this new audience.

Managing Self Doubt

Many of us manage self doubt with subjective over achievement. Subjective over achievement is a consequence of self doubt. Pouring more and more effort in to ensure “perfection”. It’s exhausting, and the end result is not usually worth the effort and stress we put in. You must learn how to stop engaging in an extreme and find the sweet spot.

A Healthy Balance

The small amount of self doubt propelled me to put in the extra effort into my presentation and it paid off. It was a success.The participants were thrilled.And that is a direct result of pushing myself further to gain the confidence I needed to perform to the best of my ability.

Sometimes a little bit of self doubt makes all the difference!

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June 5, 2018

This summer I am scratching something amazing off my bucket list, I am going to BURNING MAN!

Do you have a bucket list? A list of things you want to try before you die? A list of experiences, and challenges, and opportunities that excite you, and enchant you, and maybe even scare you a little?

No Regrets

When people get to the end of their lives they don’t think about the failures of the things they tried. They think about the time they wasted not doing the things they always wanted. Research shows regret is one of the strongest emotions expressed from those who are dying. Regret for all of the things they put off and never did.

A Challenge

I encourage each of you to choose one thing from your “Someday List”, and start to consider, really consider the possibility of making it a reality. Figure out what you would need to do, what steps you need to take to turn these someday items into cherished memories. Make a plan!

You can do anything, at any age, and I urge you to start today.

Tell me, what will you do?

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May 30, 2018

The Canadian Positive Psychology Association Conference was this past weekend in Toronto. A magical three days I always come home on a high filled with incredible ideas. A beautiful reminder of the years I spent building this incredible organization.


I wanted to share with you a few of my personal highlights from this incredible conference:

Kate Hefferon

Embodied Cognition: Positive body image. It’s not enough to say I don’t hate my body, we have to say I love my body and believe it. The research shows people who love their bodies are genuinely happier.

Elaine O’Brien

Positive Psychology in Medicine: How does our emotional state impact our physical self and what tools do our doctors need to factor emotional well being into diagnosis.

Happiness Research

Measuring our well being: Canadian index of well being found that people are less happy when they reside in large cities and happier when in less populated areas. It reflects on how nature, and nature therapy can support health and wellness

Itai Ivtzan

The upside of the downside: We always assume we must be happy and experiencing positive emotions all the time, but that is not the case. Struggle and strife can be a beautiful growth experience. Embrace all parts of life as they are all beautiful in how they unfold.

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May 8, 2018

Intrinsic motivation is the kind of motivation where you freely engage in an activity or behavior because you enjoy the activity for it’s own sake. No one has to give you a carrot or a stick to get you moving in that direction. When we are going after our bigger goals and dreams, we want to be intrinsically motivated because this will break down any resistance we have to moving forward.

3 Personal Human Needs that Fuel Intrinsic Motivation

Researchers have discovered three very deep personal human needs we have that fuel intrinsic motivation:

Autonomy

When people feel that what they are doing is aligned with their value and belief system then they will be more intrinsically motivated and engaged in the activity. If you can find purpose in what you are doing you are more likely to succeed at it.

Relatedness

We are social creatures. We need a feeling of belonging, of acceptance and respect. When our family and friends are supporting our choices we are more apt to continue to work toward the goal or activity than if we feel pressure or negative response. When we feel unsupported we will struggle in our efforts to achieve our goals.

Competence

When we feel capable and knowledgeable about something we will jump in readily to perform. However, when we have self-doubt about our abilities to be successful in any given task, we are more resistant and anxious. Competence breeds confidence.

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You can't help but feel better about yourself after spending some time with Louisa. Her energy and enthusiasm is infectious, mix that with her engaging teaching style and you have the ideal learning environment for anyone interested in positive psychology. I have been blessed to learn from Louisa in a classroom and conference setting and I can honestly say that she has changed my life.

Glendale Reyes


Louisa was my instructor for The Flourishing Center's CAPP (Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology) course held in Toronto Canada. She was excellent in her delivery and included many different approaches to teaching and learning which helped me retain the information better than any other course I have taken. Her enthusiasm and commitment to her work is an inspiration and she is brilliant at w... (Read More)

Barbara Santen
Registered Midwife & Relationship Coach


Plain and simply speaking, you were a hit! Your morning keynote address set a meaningful, happy, and upbeat tone for the rest of the conference. Our staff responded to your presentation style and message because it is what we needed to hear and feel at this time. We are a great College, with great staff, and May is the end of a full and active year of classes and programs, successes and challenges... (Read More)

Brian Benn, M. Ed.
Associate Director, Organizational Development


Let me just say WOW, WOW, WOW!!! You are a pleasure and a joy! Everybody loved your presentation, your warmth, kindness, approachability, and collaborative approach! Thank you so much for a phenomenal conference. The afternoon portion was also fantastic and more intimate which was really lovely, and it got all of us to breathe and connect more with one another. I cannot wait until our next opportu... (Read More)

Annalise Iten
Director Job Search Program


Louisa has the unique ability to engage a diverse audience with her expertise, humour and engaging style. As our key note speaker she enlightened the audience on the science of happiness and how happiness effects our well-being. The feedback was overwhelmingly positive; guests were inspired and delighted to listen to such a knowledgeable professional about a topic that everyone craves to know more... (Read More)

Roz Baker
Project Director, Signature Events


Louisa's course: Building Personal Resilience for Clinicians and Frontline Workers has been very well received since we introduced it two years ago. Her fun and engaging style makes this one of our highest rated courses, and the information is such a critical addition to the participants self-care toolkit. While the material is completely grounded in science, the application of it is practical, ... (Read More)

Linda Hills
Executive Director


University of Toronto Scarborough

Louisa delivered a fantastic workshop on the topic of personal resilience and learning to embrace failure. Her session was refreshing, entertaining and very pertinent to our work with students. The strategies she provided are ones we can apply right away. Our time with her simply flew by! I highly recommend Louisa as she is both an expert on and shining example of the power of positive psychology.

Jen Tigno
Manager, Advising & Learning Skills Services, Academic Advising & Career Centre


Thank you again for another great webinar. You and Shannon are both so engaging. It is rare in a webinar to actually feel that we are all in the room together. Somehow you both pull it off with your deep knowledge, warmth and energy. Your sessions offer a lot of value. The content is clear and compelling, and the exercises are highly relevant and immediately useful. I’m really enjoying ta... (Read More)

Carolyn Meacher
Innovation Leadership Coach


Thank you so much for your presentation today—there was so much that was of great value –lots to think about. I worked with a client immediately following the webinar and used the “miracle question”—so much came out of that and it was perfect timing. Louisa, I found your presentation style is so engaging, provocative and yet relaxed and rich with information. Thanks again.

Marilyn Kisluk
Coach


Comments from two participants (faculty and staff): 1) I felt that the PD with Louisa Jewell really had an effect on me in a very positive way. I could not stop talking and thinking about her discussions for a week or more after. It had such an impact on me that I spoke to my friends about that PD. I feel that our school needs these kinds of reminders in order to put ourselves on track and keep ... (Read More)

Helen Gin
Middle School Principal


Thank you again so much for the excellent session! It is so valuable and pertinent and, as I mentioned at the beginning, theoretically grounded and also practical - a rare and wonderful combination.

Valerie Ward
Co-Developer and Owner


Your presentation to our parents was such a gift. Thank you. I have already had emails from parents who attended to say how grateful they are for what you shared with them. Your work is so important, and the way you distribute it with such grace and humour makes it accessible to so many.

Laurie Fraser
Character Integrator


Scotiabank

The workshop is very dynamic and time flies. It definitely gave me more consciousness of what I think, I feel, do and how I can do a much better job. The content is powerful and so are the exercises and resources provided. I do think that this is the first step to a happier, fulfilling life. I would love to take more workshops about this subject. Thank you Louisa so much for this opportunity. I ha... (Read More)

Brenda Bojorquez
Senior Manager


The flourishing 101 course was an eye opener. When you look for the positive around you, guess what you actually find more of the positive. It?s the power of intention. I discovered how I could use my top strengths to create more success in my personal life and career. Sometimes what we are naturally good at we take for granted. This course will change how you interact with others and bring more p... (Read More)

Sarah Clark
CPC Health Coach


I had long struggled with my lack of motivation and my fear of the world. I didn't have enough confidence in myself to start conversations with strangers or to try new things. I was unhappy with the small and empty way I was living my life and I wanted to make a change, but I didn't know how or if I could. I found the answers I was looking for in this course. It opened my eyes to the traps I was f... (Read More)

Collette Johns


I loved Louisa Jewell's Flourishing 101 workshop series. I learned so much about happiness, positivity and how to increase both. I have so many new tools to use and am able to refer to them whenever I need to. It's been extremely useful and I recommend it to anyone!

Kristy S. Simpson


It would have taken me months of independent study to learn what I have learnt in just six short weeks. The classes were lively, engaging and down to earth. The practical examples and stories made the research come alive. I especially loved the home happiness boosters turned my A-ha Moments into easy action steps with big impact. Flourishing 101 made a positive impact on my life and has given me ... (Read More)

Shirin Khamisa
Career counsellor & Certified ICF Coach


Thank you very much for taking the time to present to us here at Sterling Hall on Tuesday. I have had numerous teachers, parents, and administrators say what an incredible session it was. All of our brains are brimming with programming and activities we can implement both at home and at school to help our students and children realize their character strengths and use them to help build their resi... (Read More)

Erica Sprules
Manager


Thank you for a great course! It was a wonderful class - full of useful and thought-provoking information. And, I liked the balance of classroom learning (which I love) and some exercises to apply what we talk about. You are also able to handle all sorts of questions well. I was so curious - I hope I did not bombard you with too many questions as I was loving what we discussed and wanted to learn ... (Read More)

Steffi Black
Life/Career Coach & Kindness Advocate for Schools


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