March 26, 2020
I hope you are all staying healthy and safe during this terrible crisis that our world is experiencing right now. I’m sending you all of my positive energy. Today, I want to talk to you about how do you protect your health and your happiness as we go through this Coronavirus crisis together.
I’m going to share four tools; resilience-building tools, wellbeing tools that are going to help you get through this crisis. I’m not going to share my usual tools. I want to get deeper on some of these to show you some of the things that I have done.
What I did in the past, is I created a video blog series and it was called how I stayed healthy and happy during the worst time of my life. I was going through a divorce and it was just a devastatingly sad time for me. I documented some of the things I did to actually be resilient to flourish despite everything that was happening to me at that time. A lot of people listened in and shared and it was one of my most popular series. So, I want to do more of that here.
Now, what are some of the things that I am doing? What are some of the things you can do and that you can share with your children to keep you healthy and happy and protect your health and happiness during this time? Because this is a difficult challenging time. I know a lot of people who are finding it very hard to self-isolate and it goes against our wellbeing, actually, to self-isolate. So let’s get started on that.
Before I start with the four tips I want to give you today, I want to say thank you to those of you who responded to my survey. There were wonderful things that came out of that, so thank you very much. I also wanted to say that there were two winners of the Amazon gift card, Cindy Straddling and Ron Fountain. I’m going to be emailing you to let you know and give you information on how you can receive your prize.
- Start your day with an energizing morning ritual
Okay, so what is one of the first things that I have done to actually build my strength and build my fuel on how to actually get through this Coronavirus crisis? I started a new morning ritual. I was never big on morning rituals, but they are really important to boost your energy as you go into your day. And I felt that I needed a boost to go into my day.
So I turned to Tim Ferriss. I’ve been listening to his podcast. I love, love, love, love, love Tim Ferriss and one of the things he talks about is his morning ritual and I modified it a little bit for me. What I do is, I wake up at a certain time every morning. When I get up, I make my bed; there’s something about accomplishing something right away that already makes you feel better. Then I brush my teeth. I clear out all of the toxins that are in my mouth before I go downstairs to feed the dog.
I savour my dog every morning, as well. I spend a few minutes to get in those positive emotions. I then drink lemon water, I take my vitamins and then meditate for 10 to 20 minutes using an uplifting guided meditation. Then I like to do morning pages. Morning pages were introduced by the author of The Artist’s Way. It’s three pages of mind streaming. You dump it on a page, you don’t read it again. It really helps me to kind of clear my mind of the clutter. I also do some gratitude journaling in the morning too, to say what I am absolutely grateful for.
Then, I like to exercise because it makes me feel great. Once again, I feel like I’ve accomplished something and I go into my day with so much more energy. So, tool number one is to think of a morning ritual that is going to really uplift you and give you much more energy going into your day.
Now the second technique I want to tell you about is called acceptance. Now a lot of you might say, “What? Acceptance? I can’t accept this! This is terrible!”. When my husband left me, I went immediately to acceptance. I thought if this is what he needs to be happy, then who am I to stop him from doing that? My girlfriends were livid. They were so angry because they love me and they wanted to protect me. They didn’t like that anybody was doing anything to hurt me. But what acceptance does, is it allows you to let go of the anger. It allows you to just say, ‘this is my new life’.
So, instead of getting angry about it and upset and sad, I just accept it and say, this is my new life. That doesn’t mean that I can’t be proactive. I’m going to try to be very proactive throughout this crisis and give as much information as I can. It allows me to let go of the anger so that it’s out of my mind. And then I can say, given that this is my new life, now what? And I find that because I’m shut in, this is an opportunity for me to create; to create new programs; to create new talks; to do things that I’ve never been able to do!
This is a time that I can connect with my daughter since we’re both shut in the house. And how beautiful is that? How can I use this time and be grateful for this opportunity to do things that maybe I wasn’t able to do when I was busier.
3. Don’t watch the news
Now some of you are saying, ‘well that’s completely irresponsible’ and I don’t mean that you should be irresponsible about taking in the important information you need to protect yourself and the people around you. With most news station, it is their job to sensationalize, to catastrophize, to turn this into the worst thing that’s ever happened to the world. It IS a horrible thing that is happening in the world. This is a pandemic and this should be taken very seriously. I really am so happy that our Ontario government, our municipal government, and our federal government in Canada, is taking extreme measures to crush this. Let’s end this, let’s self-isolate and protect ourselves so that this can come to an end sooner rather than later. Other countries are exploding and Canada has been able to somewhat contain, which is excellent.
So, what I do is I have three trusted resources that I go to, to take a look at what is happening in the world and also to understand what is happening in Canada on a daily basis. (see all my trusted sources below) I monitor those every day. I understand how things are being tracked. I also subscribe only to trusted sources with regard to how to take care of my health and how to take care of my family. And I go to those sources to receive more information. I also listen in to every press conference that’s put out by the municipal mayor of Toronto, where I live, the Ontario government and the Canadian government. Listening in, to what we need to be doing as Canadians, in my community, to keep us all safe.
I also share if there’s other information with my friends and family. All of this sensationalism is just going to bring you down. Don’t feed the catastrophizing. Instead, empower yourself with good, positive, reliable resources on how you can protect yourself and your family and then do those things. Engage in those things. What we need to do right now is self-isolate and that is really important to crush this thing. So, listen in to those trusted sources and forget the rest because it’s just not going to help your wellbeing and it’s certainly not going to improve your resilience.
4. Reach out to friends and family on video
Now if someone was to ask me, what is the most important thing you can do to protect your wellbeing? I would say when you are going through a crisis, reach out to friends and family, spend time with your best friends, with people you love.
We can’t do that. So now the number one resilience strategy we can’t do because we’re self-isolating. However, you can reach out via Zoom or Skype or some sort of video conferencing. Now, I know you can always call people on the phone, don’t just text people, call people on the phone and talk to them and even better, video with them.
There is a difference when you actually look people in the eye. It changes our physiology. It actually creates a different kind of connection within our bodies. It increases the intensity of our positive emotions when we are interacting positively with someone and looking at them in the eye. So texting and calls are okay. Video? Even better at this time! So, reach out to family and friends, maybe people you haven’t reached out to in a long time.
We will get through this. We will be stronger.
We will learn from this. We will learn how to increase our capacity in our hospitals. We will learn how to deal with pandemics and be ready if this happens again. We will be stronger and more prepared next time. Reach out to family and friends on a daily basis. Make it something that you do on a daily basis.
I have many, many more strategies that I’m going to share with you. They will come, I will do another four tools next week.
I’ll also be starting wellbeing water-coolers. What are they? A lot of us are working from home. We are not interacting with people as much as we could. We’re certainly not going out and networking. So, these wellbeing water-coolers are going to be an opportunity for you. I’m going to come on and it’s going to be a zoom call where you can come in. I’m going to share a wellbeing strategy and then I’m going to allow you to talk to others, to get to know people, to do some online networking.
They’re going to be short little 15 to 20-minute calls just to get you out of your isolated space, meeting new people, discovering new ideas. Register for my Well-being Watercooler here: https://zoom.us/meeting/register/upwtdOuurDMjRMFR3nImPfhTQ2Vxg2o5SA
I’m also going to do another webinar next Tuesday at 12pm EST.
It’s going to be a webinar for parents; How do you keep your children healthy and happy during this time? How do you help them reduce catastrophizing, reduce anxiety and stress at this time? Resister for this webinar here: https://zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_dzy62WuHSxqTM_TiManp9w
As I create more and more online resources for you, I will be emailing you and sending those out.
Stay safe everyone! I will be praying for all of you!
Re: Coronavirus updates:
This is where I keep track of all the confirmed cases around the world and worldwide information being published by the World Health Organization:
This is a good one for Canadian Statistics:
This is tracked by John Hopkins University
Also, John Hopkins has some great resources here: