March 26, 2018
Do you ruminate regularly?
Ruminating is such an destructive habit and can leave people feeling unmotivated and depressed. When I was younger, I found myself in a situation where I was ruminating about something that was out of my control. It wasn’t until my mother said two very simple words to me that I was able to put things into perspective. Until this day, I still think of the advice my mom gave me and continue to share it with others, and I’m excited to now share it with you!
Here is the one thing you need to tell yourself to stop ruminating.
Why You Should Tell Yourself “So What?”
The Worst That Can Happen Might Not be That Bad
Take a step back from the situation that is making you ruminate. Ask yourself if the worst case scenario is really that bad. Generally, when we feel anxious we don’t think straight so it’s easy to allow our emotion to overcome our thoughts.
There is Usually a Solution
In most cases, there is always a solution. For example, if this company doesn’t want to hire you, someone else will. It’s easy to jump right to being negative but if you want to learn to control your ruminations, you need to take control of your thoughts.
You Can’t Please Everyone
You can’t please everyone and not everyone will believe in what you’re doing – it’s just life. When I started to write my book, Wire Your Brain for Confidence; The Science of Conquering Self-Doubt I found myself thinking a lot about what people were going to think of the final product. And then I thought, “So what?” You can spend your life worrying about what others think or you can start living your life.