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June 18, 2014
3 Proven Ways to Reduce Self-doubt and Increase Self-confidence

Everyone has self-doubt, especially when you’re trying something new. Self-doubt is not always a bad thing – it can be that little voice in your head that says “wait a second – are you sure you want to do this?” That voice could also be telling you that you need to work a little harder on the task you’re not quite feeling confident about.

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But what about when self-doubt takes over your life and stops you from doing things you are quite confident about? In this video we discuss some of the scientific findings in positive psychology and self-confidence and how they can help you overcome self-doubt and achieve what you want in your life.

Now, I’d love to hear from you. What are your struggles with self-doubt? What stops you from going after your dreams? Leave your comments below and let us know.

Thank you for reading, sharing and joining in!

I wish all of you lasting happiness! See you next time.
LOUISA JEWELL
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8 Responses to “3 Proven Ways to Reduce Self-doubt and Increase Self-confidence”

  1. Donna Brown says:

    GREAT Webinar, Louisa. Excellent message and reminder to all. I’m happy to share these simple messages with friends, family and others that I work with. Good Job!!!

  2. Heather says:

    Love the simplicity of this message. Your work on self-doubt is key to everything. I like the reminder that it is domain specific. But what about the experience of failing/taking no action in a domain, and then generalizing the concept to other aspects of one’s life. That is, making “I failed at this” to “I am a failure”. Then self doubt becomes pervasive. And this ‘self talk’ seems to happen early, and then is reinforced through chosen behaviours as an adult.

    • Louisa Jewell says:

      Hi Heather, You bring up a really good point. Self-talk can often sabotage our feelings of success. When we take failure personally and allow it to become part of our self-concept – just as you mention – going from ‘I failed at this’ to now labeling yourself as a failure. Martin Seligman in his book Learned Optimism might characterize this as making this failure a permanent part of me – thus I actually even label myself with that name. When we can make the failure temporary – I failed this time, but I don’t fail at this all the time. Or if we can be specific saying that maybe we failed at this particular thing, but I don’t fail at other things. I might remind myself about things that I am actually good at for example. The best way to embrace failure is to continually look at the outcomes of your actions as something you just need to work harder at. Carol Dweck, in her book Mindset, gives us more ways to promote a growth mindset – which would take a look at a failure and say “I didn’t work hard enough at this to succeed. I need to practice/learn more to be successful next time. It is not that I am not talented – it is that I didn’t work hard enough at yet.” I think if we can all take that approach, we will be less afraid of failure and embrace it more. I also find self-compassion is important. When I fail at something I am able to say “Oh well. I’m doing my best.” and I move on! Thanks Heather.

  3. Cindee Davison says:

    Hi Louisa,
    I have been regularly sharing your blogs with my network of friends and colleagues with the most positive of responses! Thank you! Your work as always is incredibly helpful to so many people in so many ways!
    Your response to Heather also resonates with me as I have discovered that self compassion is central to reducing fear and self doubt! Amazing!!

    • Louisa Jewell says:

      Thank you Cindee! Yes, I believe self-compassion is really key. When you can just say “I’m doing my best” it is so freeing!

  4. Mo McKenna says:

    Louisa
    Inspiring and informational and simple. Thanks for taking the complexity of the research and making it accessible to everyone – great message!

    cheers
    Mo

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